What You Can Do to Change Your Child's Behavior?

Normal behavior in children depends on the child's age, personality, and physical and emotional development. A child's behavior may be a problem if it doesn't match the expectations of the family or if it is disruptive. Normal or "good" behavior is usually determined by whether it's socially, culturally and developmentally appropriate. Knowing what to expect from your child at each age will help you decide whether his or her behavior is normal.

What can I do to change my child's behavior?
Children tend to continue a behavior when it is rewarded and stop a behavior when it is ignored. Consistency in your reaction to a behavior is important because rewarding and punishing the same behavior at different times confuses your child. When you think your child's behavior might be a problem, you have 3 choices:

Decide that the behavior is not a problem because it's appropriate to the child's age and stage of development.

Attempt to stop the behavior, either by ignoring it or by punishing it.
Introduce a new behavior that you prefer and reinforce it by rewarding your child.

How do I stop misbehavior?
The best way to stop unwanted behavior is to ignore it. This way works best over a period of time. When you want the behavior to stop immediately, you can use the time-out method.

How do I use the time-out method?
Decide ahead of time the behaviors that will result in a time-out (usually tantrums, or aggressive or dangerous behavior). Choose a time-out place that is uninteresting for the child and not frightening, such as a chair, corner or playpen. When you're away from home, consider using a car or a nearby seating area as a time-out place.

When the unacceptable behavior occurs, tell the child the behavior is unacceptable and give a warning that you will put him or her in time-out if the behavior doesn't stop. Remain calm and don't look angry. If your child goes on misbehaving, calmly take him or her to the time-out area.

If possible, keep track of how long your child's been in time-out. Set a timer so your child will know when time-out is over. Time-out should be brief (generally 1 minute for each year of age), and should begin immediately after reaching the time-out place or after the child calms down. You should stay within sight or earshot of the child, but don't talk to him or her. If the child leaves the time-out area, gently return him or her to the area and consider resetting the timer. When the time-out is over, let the child leave the time-out place. Don't discuss the bad behavior, but look for ways to reward and reinforce good behavior later on.

How do I encourage a new, desired behavior?
One way to encourage good behavior is to use a reward system. Children who learn that bad behavior is not tolerated and that good behavior is rewarded are learning skills that will last them a lifetime. This works best in children older than 2 years of age. It can take up to 2 months to work. Being patient and keeping a diary of behavior can be helpful to parents.

Choose 1 to 2 behaviors you would like to change (for example, bedtime habits, tooth brushing or picking up toys). Choose a reward your child would enjoy. Examples of good rewards are an extra bedtime story, delaying bedtime by half an hour, a preferred snack or, for older children, earning points toward a special toy, a privilege or a small amount of money.

Explain the desired behavior and the reward to the child. For example, "If you get into your pajamas and brush your teeth before this TV show is over, you can stay up a half hour later." Request the behavior only one time. If the child does what you ask, give the reward. You can help the child if necessary but don't get too involved. Because any attention from parents, even negative attention, is so rewarding to children, they may prefer to have parental attention instead of a reward at first. Transition statements, such as, "In 5 minutes, play time will be over," are helpful when you are teaching your child new behaviors.

This system helps you avoid power struggles with your child. However, your child is not punished if he or she chooses not to behave as you ask; he or she simply does not get the reward.

What are some good ways to reward my child?
Beat the Clock (good method for a dawdling child)
Ask the child to do a task. Set a timer. If the task is done before the timer rings, your child gets a reward. To decide the amount of time to give the child, figure out your child's "best time" to do that task and add 5 minutes.

The Good Behavior Game (good for teaching a new behavior)
Write a short list of good behaviors on a chart and mark the chart with a star each time you see the good behavior. After your child has earned a small number of stars (depending on the child's age), give him or her a reward.

Good Marks/Bad Marks (best method for difficult, highly active children)
In a short time (about an hour) put a mark on a chart or on your child's hand each time you see him or her performing a good behavior. For example, if you see your child playing quietly, solving a problem without fighting, picking up toys or reading a book, you would mark the chart. After a certain number of marks, give your child a reward. You can also make negative marks each time a bad behavior occurs. If you do this, only give your child a reward if there are more positive marks than negative marks.

Developing Quiet Time (often useful when you're making supper)
Ask your child to play quietly alone or with a sibling for a short time (maybe 30 minutes). Check on your child frequently (every 2 to 5 minutes, depending on the child's age) and give a reward or a token for each few minutes they were quiet or playing well. Gradually increase the intervals (go from checking your child's behavior every 2 to 5 minutes to checking every 30 minutes), but continue to give rewards for each time period your child was quiet or played well.
What else can I do to help my child behave well?
Make a short list of important rules and go over them with your child. Avoid power struggles, no-win situations and extremes. When you think you've overreacted, it's better to use common sense to solve the problem, even if you have to be inconsistent with your reward or punishment method. Avoid doing this often as it may confuse your child.

Accept your child's basic personality, whether it's shy, social, talkative or active. Basic personality can be changed a little, but not very much. Try to avoid situations that can make your child cranky, such as becoming overly stimulated, tired or bored. Don't criticize your child in front of other people. Describe your child's behavior as bad, but don't label your child as bad. Praise your child often when he or she deserves it. Touch him or her affectionately and often. Children want and need attention from their parents.

Develop little routines and rituals, especially at bedtimes and meal times. Provide transition remarks (such as "In 5 minutes, we'll be eating dinner."). Allow your child choices whenever possible. For example, you can ask, "Do you want to wear your red pajamas or your blue pajamas to bed tonight?"

As children get older, they may enjoy becoming involved in household rule making. Don't debate the rules at the time of misbehavior, but invite your child to participate in rule making at another time.

Why shouldn't I use physical punishment?
Parents may choose to use physical punishment (such as spanking) to stop undesirable behavior. The biggest drawback to this method is that although the punishment stops the bad behavior for a while, it doesn't teach your child to change his or her behavior. Disciplining your child is really just teaching him or her to choose good behaviors. If your child doesn't know a good behavior, he or she is likely to return to the bad behavior. Physical punishment becomes less effective with time and can cause the child to behave aggressively. It can also be carried too far -- into child abuse. Other methods of punishment are preferred and should be used whenever possible.

Source: http://familydoctor.org/

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Trapped in " Without Relationship Status "

Some men may not be willing to commit the pretext of pursuing his career was focused, some fear could not give enough attention because there is a major problem being faced, to clearly say that he emotionally unavailable. But however, he still invites you date at the end of the week, giving sweet words and not infrequently initiate physical touch such as hugs and kisses that make you confused the hell out.

You also then confide to friends to discuss in detail and analyze 1001 possibilities why your relationship is still not yet official. Sounds familiar? Guess what, does not matter what excuses he gave you, the fact is simple. He does not want to give his commitment to you.

Without Relationship Status


These are the findings based on interviews and chat with the many men who have used various excuses to avoid commitments. They are all one voice and clearly states that it's just an excuse. Really? According to the men, when they are convinced that you are the right person, they will seek that ye may be his, and even want the whole world knows you're with him.

Busy in the office and other problems will not prevent any man to be with the woman they love. So, what should be done if you are currently being trapped in a "relationship without status" is ?

1 . Give him a hint of what you want
Invite him to speak so that he understands that we want some clarity in this relationship. This talk is done once only, and is not especially emotional pleadingly. As two adult humans, of course, this discussion should be done with a cool head.

2. Keep a distance
Once he understood enough to concern you, please do not bring up this issue again and give him the distance and time to think. During this time, act as a friend where you still can see and talk to taste but do not hold themselves to initiate first contact. Avoid spoiled attitude and all forms of physical contact which just makes us fall back into a relationship without status who wish to avoid it.

3. Set a deadline
Set a time limit in which you give him the opportunity to commit. One of the conditions, do not ever let her know about this deadline or you will be impressed are making threats.

4. Commitment
You must also be committed until the deadline that if he did not also want to give a commitment, you have to dare to say goodbye.Pada finally, if you're going along with the one you love, or you get back the freedom and opportunity to find men more precise to you, you are guaranteed a better state of Because You Are free from confusion!

How about you, have you ever been stuck in a relationship without status or even being experienced?
Share your point of view with us.
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How To Get White Teeth?

To smile and laugh brings health and your smile is also an important part of the first impression people get of you. Teeth whitening typically contributes not only to whiter teeth and a beautiful smile but also to a better self esteem. Already in Pharaonic Egypt so pale man with his teeth. Since then, the methods of tooth whitening has developed significantly. Today, most people can get a dazzling white smile.

How To Get White Teeth?


When we encounter another human being, we will get a first impression of them depending on how they are dressed, their hair, how it moves and so on. What we do not realize is how strong a beautiful smile can affect our impression of the person. Sure, we remember ourselves when we met someone who had visibly discolored teeth, for example, smoking or coffee, and how we have responded. Perhaps we feel subconsciously that this person will be someone else because of his stained teeth, we had to think otherwise the teeth would have been beautiful and dazzling white? A friend and I ordered a package whose home teeth whitening and started the next day. We thought that if only it were as cheap as we could test. I tested the first to whiten teeth in upper jaw, and after the first time I saw a difference, my bottom teeth looked much worse than the top so I bleached them too and was super happy. It's really easy and when the rail is in so you do not even think of it as it is formed just after the way your own teeth.

Most people have some kind of discoloration on their teeth. Food, coffee, tea, wine, soft drinks and of course, snuff and smoking, are taking their toll. Some medications and certain diseases can discolor teeth. An accident can cause discoloration of a tooth or several teeth, for that matter. It is also interesting that an excessive intake of fluoride in the calcification of teeth can make teeth discolored. In addition, it reduces the whiteness often over the years and some of us have small white teeth from birth.
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Natural Lotion For Refresh the Skin

Use astringent lotions with a piece of cotton wool but if your skin is looking worn off and tired, pat it on with a brisk slapping movement.

Moisten cotton wool with skin toning lotion and pat on the cheeks, chin and neck.

If you have normal, combination or dry skin, use very delicate and light preparation to refresh the skin. Never use a harsh astringent lotion for this purpose. Rose water based product is preferred.

For dry skin use rose water diluted with mineral water. Apply it gently with cotton wool avoiding the eye and upper cheek area completely.

For combination skin, light toning lotion should be used all over the face, except for the eye area. Then apply the astringent on the greasy areas with cotton wool. Never let the astringent spill over the dry cheek and eye areas.

Oily skinned people should tone with an astringent lotion, applying particularly to the oiliest places, i.e. sides of the nose, chin and forehead.

For a combination skin, refresh the skin by mixing 2 parts of rose water with one part of witch hazel. Apply to the skin with cotton wool.

For a dry skin, combine 2 tablespoons of lemon juice with 1 tablespoon glycerine and 3 tablespoons of rose water. Rub onto the skin.

For oily skin, dissolve 1 teaspoon borax in 150 ml rose water. Warm 2 tablespoons olive oil and slowly add to the mixture. Beat with an egg whisk until it is thick and creamy. Then add 2 tablespoons of lavender water to it and blend well.

Place a tablespoon of chopped mint in a jar and add 2 tablespoons cider vinegar. Shake well and leave in the fridge for a few days. Strain the liquid and add 300 ml water. Dab onto the skin with cotton wool.

To obtain a toner for sensitive skin or to calm sunburn, mash strawberries and apply for 5 minutes and then wash it off.

Rose is an excellent skin toner. Make rose water by mixing 1 tablespoon rose oil with 2 ¼ litres of purified water. Bottle it and store in the refrigerator.

Vitamin E oil and wheat oil are very effective for dry skin.

Rub a piece of potato over the face and neck and wash off after 15 minutes. This is very effective for oily skin, and can be used for dry skin with a moisturizer.
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